Thoughts About: The Fault in Our Stars by John Green

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I finished TFIOS yesterday and am still suffering from the belief that Augustus and Hazel are real people who suffered a real sImagetar crossed lovers’ tragedy. While I suppose in some respects there are metaphorical Augustus’s and Hazels around the world battling the vicious disease of cancer while trying to enjoy living and loving, I still can’t disconnect myself from the emotional attachment I feel for their particular story.

It just doesn’t seem fair. But as Augustus would say, “the world is not a wish granting factory.” Oh, how true it is.

I can’t even begin to pretend that I did not completely bawl my eyes out for the last few chapters of the book. It’s that good. Everything they say about it is TRUE. It’s adorable, it’s heart warming, it’s funny, it’s heart breaking. Perhaps what hurts me the most is that it is so real. The feelings they feel, and the fight they fight is so real. John Green ingeniously makes us have no choice but to be emotionally invested, it’s brilliant.

I finished the book of 313 pages in a little over 24 hours after starting it. I couldn’t put it down. The charisma of Augustus and the wittiness of Hazel captivated me. I loved everything about their story.

One thing that bothers me after reading the book is- why did they not get Isaac (Augustus’ and Hazel’s friend) a seeing eye dog?! I mean, unless he or someone in his family was allergic to dogs, I feel like a seeing eye dog would provide him some companionship after having been dumped by his girlfriend Monica.

I would absolutely recommend this book to everyone. I tried to get my boyfriend to read it too but alas, it is too much of a “chick book” for him. I cannot wait to watch the movie and have my heart ripped out all over again. Because with the sweet romance Augustus and Hazel, you don’t mind being hurt. Not one bit.

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Thoughts about the ‘forbidden’ topic of sex.

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I am 18 years old and up until the past year, I have always considered sex a fairly taboo subject. I thought that it was something that I wasn’t allowed to think about, let alone talk about. I was allowed to start ‘dating’ at a y
oung age and I had my first kiss in middle school. From that moment on I was no stranger to how boys minds work and how they try to “put the moves on”. I’m no prude, I am perfectly okay with touching and kissing- I won’t get into the details on this.

I have attended church on a regular basis since I was born and have been saved since I was old enough to understand what that meant. I have always tried to live an upstanding Christian life and I’ve always wanted the same for those closest to me.

I started dating this guy about a year ago that means the world to me and I am the most comfortable with him that I have ever been with anyone. He isn’t perfect, and neither am I. Sexual tension is something that is a struggle for us. This is no surprise, God DID make us sexual beings after all.

I have dealt with a lot of guilt and personal belief issues due to this. Why? I don’t think I was prepared enough for this. I was warned about touching and being alone with a guy and all of the things it could lead to. But no one prepared me for the thoughts of “how far is too far?” and “is this really wrong?”.

I think that Christians should talk to each other a lot more frankly about sex and temptation and what they can do to your relationship and values in general. Most of the sex talks I got in church were on the basis of “sex is not for you. Don’t do it unless you’re married.” But here’s the thing- that’s not the end of the conversahandstion! Sex is fantastic (OR so I am told) but it TRULY was created by God to be for married couples only. Through my personal experience here are some tidbits that I have learned:

-God does not hate you for making out

-God wants you to abstain from sex until marriage- and for the right reasons

-God wants awesome sex for us- with our spouses

-Jesus was tempted TOO. WE ARE NOT ALONE. Temptation CAN be overcome

**** I think the most important thing of all to remember is that we are LOVED by our Creator and He wants love back from us. If we love our God and strive to serve Him in all things- even our relationships, He will be glorified and He will bless us beyond what we deserve. AND keeping our focus on Him, will help put into perspective why we are waiting and will help make it easier to bear temptation.

PLEASE NOTE: By no means does this mean that I have everything mastered yet. I’m still fighting my own battle with lust. BUT I do have an understanding of what needs to happen in order to conquer it and have a lasting and meaningful relationship with the one I love, and for that reason, I thought I should share with others who may be having the same struggle.

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Predictability.

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So I have been described in my life as many things. Naïve. Cute. Ridiculous. Crazy. Caring. Compassionate. Smart. Sassy. Independent…

Predictable.

For a while I had a problem with this one. I couldn’t come to terms with the fact that I’m not crazy and spontaneous. I always thought crazy and spontaneous people were fun and interesting. And who doesn’t want to be fun and interesting? I want to be the kind of person that people want to be around. I want to be desirable.

But let me tell you what, there is a case to be made for the attribute of predictability.

The word predictability is defined as: “consistent repetition of a state, course of action, behavior, or the like, making it possible to know in advance what to expect: ” (dictionary.com)

People subconsciously love predictability because it means comfort and stability. In fact, I believe we NEED predictability in our lives because it helps us feel like we have some control over what happens to us. It allows us to feel at ease. It helps us maintain our sanity.

Just think, if you’re friends with a person who is a loose cannon all the time, it’s hard to feel at ease. You’re always on the edge, wondering what they’re going to do next. Of course there is a time and place for spontaneity but let’s be honest, it gets old.

So if you’re out there and you were once insulted by the adjective “predictable” fear not. You are not alone. Revel in your predictability because everyone subconsciously loves you whether they realize it or not. It doesn’t make you lame, it makes you awesome.

Pointless post rant over.